Why are we all so phased about what each other does in daily life?

Life is more enjoyable when you worry about yourself and your own family.

I have spent the majority of my life honestly not caring what others peoples opinions are around decision I make that solely affect myself and or my significant other. One thing I can tell you is when you begin to focus solely and exclusively on creating the life you want, it is incredible how quickly your world changed.

Where focus goes, energy flows.

Essentially the lessons I learnt very early on in my life is the more I focus on something that makes me annoyed or upset, the more I seem to end up in situations that annoy or upset me. So these days, I drink water and mind my business.

Have you ever heard of the saying “Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events and small minds discuss people”? It is highly relevant in this context. One of my best friends who I actually admire a great deal, the person I go to for relationship and financial advice, an incredible intelligent human being who is in constant growth mode, we discuss everything. We vent, we talk, we rant, but we have never discussed people. Even on our worst days when we may be cranky and pissed off at someone, it’s never the individual person. It’s always more why it is we were upset by the event.

When you fill your mind with curiosity and personal growth, there really isn’t much space left for what is happening in others lives. You can gauge very quickly how satisfied someone is in their own life based on what it is they say about others behind their back.

You can also tell how much time and energy someone spends on bettering themselves based on the judgements they pass on your decisions.

My unsolicited advice on life, mid your own business. Worry about yourself and improving your space, family, relationship and wealth. The rest of it will just fall by the wayside and once you begin to distance yourself from the worries and concerns of the smaller minds, it really becomes irrelevant what they have to say anyway.

I am also going to hit you with a very quick reality check. You’re simply not that important to other people.

Honestly reflect on yourself here.. How often do you pass someone in the shopping centre or on the street and pay THAT MUCH attention to them? Sure if someone has bright blue hair or is wearing a sequin outfit, yes you might take note of that persons existence. But on a day-to-day basis, how often do you even care about the person in the car next to you or your neighbours movements. Do you notice your neighbours bringing in the groceries or hear them argue with their kids at bedtime.

My bet is no. So why would they be paying any more attention to you than you are them?

Those passing comments or that snap judgement someone makes of you, does it really matter in the grand scheme of things? How often do you really need to deal with it? Does it change your routine or will it change your desires in life? Again, my bet is no. So why do we care so much?

In a year, the chances are you won’t even remember what was said or what they did. So on the topic of judgement, let’s just keep our negative comments to ourselves more often yeah? Unless you know the full blown intimate ins and outs of someone’s relationship and or life, let’s not assume. Because to assume makes an ass of u and me.

And please continue to live your best life and work on you. You and your little private abode is all that really matters.

Until I decide to share some more unsolicited advice.

Sarah x